“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
Forgiveness is the intentional process where the victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offence and decides to let go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. This does not necessarily mean you become friends with the wrongdoer but there is peace on the side of the victim. It’s a complicated grace that uncomplicates your anger to help you see beauty again. Big job though.
Self-love has often been seen as akin to selfishness, vanity and being full of it! This is far from the truth. Self-love centres on self-esteem and loving your inner being. No matter how good your booty looks in them jeans, if you do not love what’s under your skin, then real self-love cannot manifest within us. Self-love is the art of realising what you deserve. You don’t have to sit in front of a mirror thinking you’re above everyone else. There is a distinction between self-love and narcissism.
Are you a pushover? Do you have trouble saying ‘no’, or find it impossible to stand up for yourself and say how you feel? If you’ve answered yes to any of these, then you need to learn to be more assertive.