Red or Blue? Red or Blue? Choose between the red or blue pill.
The red pill represents living in truth and reality, whereas the blue pill represents living in ignorance and bliss. This is the familiar scene from the movie The Matrix. Though The Matrix came out a while ago, the options haven’t changed, and the matrix still exists. What’s changed is the thinking that we don’t have a choice in the matter.
We just go along humdrum in the same routine allowing adulting, life’s situations, and people, to dupe us into believing that we are powerless and have no control over our happiness. Instead of seeing that we have a choice, we get suckered into believing that the decisions are automatic or this is what “you must do” or “this happened, so I had to.”
This thinking is a sure fire eliminator of happiness and the reason why a lot of people in today’s world are unhappy. Life isn’t about the red or blue pill. Life is about choices, and the mere fact that we have a choice is ultimate power.
Negative body image has become a widespread problem among women and is a constant issue that I work on with clients. Did you know 9 out of 10 women dislike their body? This statistic saddens me. Not feeling comfortable in your body has an impact on how you live your life and how you truly feel about yourself. Therefore, having a major impact on your happiness.
I was one of the 9 out of 10 women that disliked their body. I hated my body and didn’t treat it with the respect it deserved. I fell into the trap of dieting, bingeing, emotional eating and over exercising to punish my body. It was such a painful experience filled with such self-hate and shame. I couldn’t live that way anymore, so I set out on a path of self-discovery and healing.
I firmly believe that we meet people in life for a reason and that external relationships are a mirror of the internal relationship we have with ourselves.
In the same way that our thoughts attract our reality in life, the thoughts we have about our self will attract a certain type of partner. It was only when I learnt to truly love, accept myself and realise my worth, that I attracted a man who was worth having a relationship with.
We don’t meet people by chance; every single person we meet will help to teach us the lessons we need to learn to grow and develop in this lifetime. Sometimes we need to experience the bad to realise what good feels like!
We all have lessons that we can learn from love and relationships, whether we are single or in a relationship, what better time to reflect on the good, the bad and the ugly lessons we can learn from these experiences than on Valentine’s Day?